{"id":301458,"date":"2023-10-02T16:45:50","date_gmt":"2023-10-02T16:45:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.natgeokids.com\/uk\/?post_type=parents&p=301458"},"modified":"2025-11-06T17:51:47","modified_gmt":"2025-11-06T17:51:47","slug":"communicate-better-outside","status":"publish","type":"parents","link":"https:\/\/www.natgeokids.com\/uk\/parents\/communicate-better-outside\/","title":{"rendered":"Want to communicate better with your kids? Take them outside."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

There\u2019s something about hiking in the mountains near his home that gets 12-year-old Henry Van Bibber talking. Time on the trails with his mum and dad is often filled with an endless stream of chatter<\/a> in which Henry free-associates about his dream home or ideal video game. But sometimes the topics of conversation go deeper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Last summer, for instance, the family talked about the Black Lives Matter movement and racial inequality. Recently, during a hike on his favourite trail, Henry revealed that he was feeling anxious about starting a new school <\/a>and making new friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIn the past we\u2019ve mostly had conversations about stuff he was hearing on the news<\/a> or seeing on TV,\u201d says Henry\u2019s dad, Ryan Van Bibber. \u201cBut this was like a true window into his day-to-day person. We heard about who he is and the issues that affect him.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How nature helps families communicate better<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s no secret that the simple act of going outdoors provides kids with a bounty of cognitive, emotional and physical benefits<\/a>. Kids who spend time in nature are happier, healthier, smarter, more cooperative, and more creative. Research also shows that getting outside reduces stress, anxiety and depression<\/a>. Plus, it lowers the risk of childhood obesity and alleviates symptoms of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But now, new data points to another aspect of nature\u2019s powerful nurturing ability: communication. A 2018 study<\/a> of three- and four-year-old children in Wales found that parents and children communicate better in natural environments compared to indoor environments. More recently, research published in 2021<\/a> examining the effects of nature on mother-daughter pairs revealed that spending time outside is a way to promote positive family interactions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNature restores people\u2019s ability to pay attention to conversations and reduces their mental fatigue,\u201d says Dina Izenstark, associate professor of child and adolescent development at San Jose University and one of the authors of the 2021 study. \u201cThis can help family members communicate more effectively and get along better with one another.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most parents know what it\u2019s like to get one-word answers \u2013 or stonewalled completely \u2013 when they try to talk to their children. And more parents wish their kids would open up more. The good news is that a simple dose of vitamin N might just help that happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Connecting through conversation – no matter where you are<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of where <\/em>you\u2019re talking to your child, good conversations begin with strong connections. \u201cThere\u2019s decades of research showing that having sensitive, timely, responsive interactions with your child will benefit their development,\u201d says cognitive psychologist Merideth Gattis, a professor at Cardiff University in Wales who co-authored the 2018 study. \u201cAnd parents need to employ a sort of Goldilocks strategy \u2013 not too much, not too little, but just right.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, what does that look like? According to Jennifer Kolari, a Toronto-based child and family therapist, parents spend a lot of time talking at <\/em>their kids, telling them what to do or why they should or shouldn\u2019t do something. But to nurture those deeper connections, parents need to be fully present, pausing to listen and respond to their children with compassion and empathy. And that\u2019s when the magic happens.<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u201cSome pretty important chemicals start to flow when you have this connectivity,\u201d says Kolari. For instance, when your child feels heard, their brain is bathed in oxytocin, one of the reward chemicals that makes people feel good. Higher levels of oxytocin can speed up neuroplasticity (which helps kids learn better), inhibit the stress hormone cortisol, and strengthen the immune system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cParenting this way also helps children become more emotionally resilient and more emotionally organised while improving their behaviour and social skills,\u201d Kolari says.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Looking for ways to encourage your kids outside for family time? National Geographic Kids<\/em> magazine<\/a> (for ages 7-12) and National Geographic Little Kids <\/em>magazine<\/a> (for ages 3-6) are packed with brain-boosting articles, games, puzzles and more designed to inspire a lifelong love of nature. Grab a subscription for your family today and sign up to our newsletter<\/a> for fun family activity ideas delivered direct to your inbox every week.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nature-powered conversations<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

But having that strong connectivity doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that your kids are suddenly going to start spilling their guts \u2013 or that parents are always going to have the bandwidth to listen. Everything from work to school to technology is vying for our attention. But fortunately, the antidote to all those distractions is right outside your door.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI often recommend to parents that if you want to have a really connected conversation \u2013 or a conversation about something important \u2013 take your child into nature,\u201d Kolari says. \u201cPlus, as adults, nature calms us down, too. We\u2019re able to be more present, and that helps us respond to our children instead of reacting. And what happens then is that we end up having a very different type of conversation.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why does nature help people communicate better? <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In the late \u201880s and early \u201890s, psychologists Rachel and Stephen Kaplan introduced Attention Restoration Theory, which suggested that mental fatigue and concentration can be improved by time in nature. Their research indicated that nature captures our attention effortlessly \u2013 an idea they referred to as \u2018soft fascination\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnlike sitting in front of the television, where there\u2019s a lot of stimulation coming at you, nature has a different way of grabbing your attention. It\u2019s not as overwhelming,\u201d Gattis says. \u201cOur study built on that research. We made the assumption, therefore, that communicative tasks like taking turns, listening to each other, and responding would improve in an outdoor environment.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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According to Lisa Nisbet, an associate professor of psychology at Trent University who studies people\u2019s connectedness to nature and its link to health and wellbeing, a good amount of evidence indicates that our emotions and behaviours differ when we\u2019re in nature versus indoor environments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWe\u2019re nicer in nature,\u201d Nisbet says. \u201cNature affects our wellbeing and our happiness. So, if we feel happier when we\u2019re in nature, then we\u2019re more likely to get along better with others. It makes sense that, because of those positive effects, spending time in nature would improve communication between people as well.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s more, the communication strides you make with your children in the great outdoors often spill over into daily life. Izenstark and her colleagues found that a walk in nature not only improved the mood and attention between mother and daughters during the stroll. They also displayed a greater sense of unity after the walk was over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Van Bibber, the dad hiking with his son, agrees. \u201cFor us, the conversation we had about school that day has become a reference point that we can go back to. We can say to him, \u2018Remember what we talked about when we were fossil hunting<\/a> on the caves trail? You have to be comfortable with yourself in order to make friends.\u2019 or ‘Remember what we talked about in the woods? It’s okay to feel disappointed<\/a> sometimes.’ That\u2019s a lesson we can go back to with him again and again.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Getting the conversation started<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t need to take your kids on a three-week wilderness trip to get them talking. \u201cIf you can\u2019t get to a forest, sit in your garden with your bare feet in the grass,\u201d Kolari says. \u201cThere\u2019s a calming energy that just happens.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some ideas to jump-start those conversations\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remember when? <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Reminiscing about past experiences can be a great way to open up a discussion with your child. In fact, Gattis\u2019 2018 study had many references to \u201cDo you remember when we\u2026<\/em>\u201d or \u201cDo you remember when _________ happened?\u201d <\/em>Those shared memories, or \u2018remindings\u2019, as Gattis calls them, are an excellent way for parents and children to connect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Share something from your own life. <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Recount a personal experience or interaction you had recently. Open up about how it impacted you. Your child may interrupt you, but that\u2019s okay. If you tell a story about how someone cut in front of you in the supermarket queue, your child may come back with, \u201cI got so angry today when Elizabeth pushed ahead of me at playtime!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I was a kid… <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Younger children love hearing stories about when their parents were little. Drawing parallels between your past and their present can inspire kids to talk about their own lives. With older kids, think about some of the academic or social issues they might be facing and share a related tale from your own adolescence.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Model curiosity and awe. <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cLook at that cool caterpillar!\u201d \u201cI wonder why that tree\u2019s bark is that colour?\u201d \u201cWhoa! Did you see that big bird?\u201d <\/em>It\u2019s impossible to ignore the wonders of nature \u2013 even if you\u2019re just walking down a city street. Asking questions while modelling your own fascination with the natural world might instigate some cool conversations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Embrace the silence. <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Parents can feel the need to make every moment a teachable one. But don\u2019t fill all the available space with empty chatter when your family is out in nature. \u201cLearn to be quiet,\u201d Kolari says. \u201cYou can go for a walk and not even talk. You\u2019re still connecting. There\u2019s magic and beauty in silence.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you have any top tips to help families communicate better? Share them in the comments, below!<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Written by Gina Decaprio Vercesi. Image credits: family walk \u00a9 Tom Werner \/ Getty Images;<\/strong> all others \u00a9 Adobe Stock. <\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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